I recently read a quote that makes a lot of sense: “Pick your battles carefully. It’s sometimes better to have peace than to win.”
It would be a good lesson to learn, at least for me. I have often dug in my heels in a disagreement, determined to have the last word. I have, in the past, stubbornly faced off with other people, because I knew I was right. The truth is that I may well have been right, but perhaps the confrontation did not merit a full-on battle.
Giving in when you are in the middle of a disagreement is sometimes the best way to get to a place of peace. And yes, sometimes it really is better to have peace than to win. The older I get, the more important it is to have peace. So I plan to lose some of the small battles I face. I plan to face off on issues that truly matter. I plan to pick carefully the battles I am compelled to fight. It makes good sense.